Stella

You married Stella when you were both 20. It's now 4 years later,and you're both madly in love with each other, happy and very faithful. One day, while tidying the bedroom, you find a box with handwritten letters to the New York Times ethicist. You've read those letters in the NYT magazine, without realizing Stella wrote them! In them, Stella asks for advice: she's happily married to the love of her life, but she has a hard time imagining herself never experiencing intimacy with another man - especially an older man. She doesn't have anyone in particular picked out, she just hates the idea of going to her grave without experiencing more first. She doesn't know how to achieve this without breaking her husband's heart. The Ethicist responds, telling her to be honest and open with her husband. But she hasn't said a thing to you yet about wanting to do this.