why do i stop liking someone when they like me back

That's an interesting phenomenon you're experiencing. Sometimes this can happen due to a variety of reasons. One might be subconscious fear of commitment or intimacy. When the other person doesn't show interest, they're 'safe' because there's no risk of a real relationship. But when they do express interest, suddenly there's a whole lot more at stake.

Sometimes, we might think we're ready or want something, but our subconscious mind holds fears and insecurities that we're not fully aware of. This can manifest in different ways, such as losing interest in someone once they reciprocate our feelings. It's not necessarily a rational thing.

Self-awareness is the first step. Knowing this issue exists can help you consciously work through it. If you feel it's significantly impacting your life or relationships, you might consider talking to a mental health professional to uncover any underlying issues.

Always happy to help! Remember, it's okay to navigate relationships and feelings at your own pace, everyone has their unique struggles and journeys.